Dreaming of making love with an ex is a fairly common dream, which is shared by women as much as by men. Contrary to what one might think, it does not happen by compensation, that is to say at times when his/her sex life is floundering. It can be a good excuse to live an extramarital relationship at a good cost since we make love with someone with whom we have already done it! Guilt may therefore be less.
Dreaming of making love with an ex is common: in general, we remember pleasant and intense moments. This can betray regrets, even a state of lack regarding the past relationship.
For Sigmund Freud, the ex represents, in the unconscious, the parent of the opposite sex. To dream that we are making love with him is a more acceptable disguised Oedipal situation: it allows us not to face the full force of the major ban on incest.
Antoine Peytavin’s contemporary interpretation speaks of regrets about the past relationship. However, we should not dwell too much on it. Having shared moments of intimacy cannot be forgotten: it is a happy memory to be cherished, even if the current relationship is emotionally and sexually successful.
The symbolic approach leans towards a passing situation, a transition. This dream, which is common during bereavement or break-up, can also simply represent an aspect of yourself that you are trying to get rid of.
A good excuse to live an extramarital relationship
The staging of this type of dream is often simple. We see ourselves making love with an ex as it happened before. It’s like a revival of pleasant and intense moments. What often varies is the environment. Either we are in unknown places, either in our current apartment, or we find ourselves in spaces that were where we lived with the ex in question.
In certain cases also the companion or the companion of the moment is present.
VARIANTS OF THIS DREAM
Dreaming of making love with your partner, dreaming of homosexual relationships, dreaming of making love with your neighbors, dreaming of making love with an ex-teacher, dreaming of making love with a known character from the past, dreaming of making love with a fairytale character.
Meaning of sex dreams with an ex
For Freudian psychoanalysis, the only ex who matters for the unconscious is the parent of the opposite sex. To dream that we are making love with an ex is therefore a disguised Oedipal situation. The dreamer replaces his father or his mother with the ex because it is more acceptable and less problematic and allows not to confront head-on with the major prohibition of incest.
CONTEMPORARY INTERPRETATION: (ANTOINE PEYTAVIN)
Dreaming of a relationship with an ex can betray a state of lack of regret over his past relationship. A dream with your ex should not cause too many questions. The fact of having lived for a certain time with the latter and of having shared with him many moments of intimacy and complicity cannot be definitively forgotten and even if the new relationship is a success on the emotional and sexual level, nothing can erase from the mind certain happy or unhappy memories.
Dreaming of your ex is synonymous with a passing situation, a transition. It can also represent an aspect of yourself that you want to get rid of or that is outdated. These dreams are common during a breakup or bereavement.